escaping mundanity & normalcy..

Family.. the closest of everything to all of us..
i truly believe that there will no be eternal feud between
family members.. although there may be case whereby
they could not live together in harmony.. they have grudges
between them.. characteristic indifferent..
the fact that they are bonded together as a family is definitely
undeniable.. no matter how bad a family relationship is.. there
bound to be heart warming occasion.. peaceful moment
together..

one of my friend is having a slight problem with his family..
what really causes this sudden rift between his mum and
him?? like a dormant volcano.. suddenly got active..
all his displeasure towards his mum rushes out in spur of a
moment.. if you are reading this.. your mum did have fault
for being so stubborn.. but still, she is your mum.. a fact you
can't deny.. at this current moment.. both of you are still
hot headed.. i believe sitting down to have a peaceful talk
is not a very good option.. it will only ended up with another
shouting match most of the time.. the is still cases show likewise..
what i usually do when it happen to me..
had been thru all these familiar scenarios for many times..
i will just let things cool down before trying to make a
talk with her.. try to make her understand my stand..
afterall, someone have to relent.. we can always wait for
the other part to relent.. but how long will it be going to
take?? our parents are no longer young.. time is catching
up with them day by day.. they have their own fear.. i believe
you also know.. don't let this matter goes on for too long..
it will not do you good..

jus now on the bus.. you ask about my brother.. you said that
he must be enjoying his campus life.. i actually wanted to tell
you something.. but i'm not a person who is vocal enough..
here, i will tell you.. i agree with you that he indeed will enjoy
his campus life.. but he sacrifice his family time..
this is the same case of me going oversea for more than a
year.. i did enjoy complete independent from my parent..
but i don't have anyone for me to rely fully on when there
is something goes bad.. i lose a year of family time.. time
that can't be retrieved.. i couldn't be there to celebrate their
birthdays.. i couldn't be there when my mum admitted to
hospital.. felt so helpless.. how i wish i could appear by their
side immediately sometimes.. i know i couldn't..

you are thinking of moving out as an alternative to solve this
issue.. but will this be the best way?
this does not mend the crack that have created.. do think twice
for this decision.. distances drift peoples apart..
you are a filial son in everyone's eyes.. i believe your mum
will understand what you want someday.. but someone
have to initiate the first move..

this is just some of my thoughts for your problem.. i might
not be fully correct about the whole thing.. or fully understand..
i just want to tell you..
no matter what.. the group of us will be there for you..
like the motto created.. Peng You Yi Shen Nan Qiu..
we will be most willing to lend you a listening ear and our
time.. that's what friends are for.. right???

walkingtarts awake and ranted on 3/11/2004 12:16:00 AM

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